Achieving honorable successes in your personal and business life is hard work, but it is doable with time and dedication. Over the last 30 years, I have dedicated my life to helping people build quality relationships in their personal and professional lives.

Through the residential schools and programs I have developed, more than 10,000 people have graduated onto healthier and happier lives. Applied Relationality, the therapeutic model I co-developed, has opened up new doors into understanding motive and how people interact with others.

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There is a groundswell of interest in the Relational approach to human behavior and problem solving. I have been honored to work with many groups and individuals as they seek to create real working solutions to unique problems, be they issues of human and family interaction, personal growth, business dynamics, or theoretical/philosophical quandaries. Over the years I have had the privilege of presenting as a guest speaker before various organizations. (No one threw tomatoes or asked me to leave.) I attribute this to the importance of the subject matter and the eagerness we all have to live The Best Life. If you or your organization are interested in learning more about the services I offer, please see below. Many of the Retreats, Seminars, and Consulting Services are provided at the LJM Training and Retreat Center in Northeastern Washington at a park-like 200 acre facility, Fifty-five minutes from Spokane International Airport (GEG).


Private and Group Consulting Services

Seminars & Courses

Seminars and Trainings open for public registration at the LJM Retreat Center will be published as needed on this website.

Publications (ie. Book, published literature)

L Jay has recently published the book titled, “Decide Now: The Good Life or the Best Life”, click here to download the first chapter for free!

Keynote Speaking

Through invitation

For more information, feel free to contact L.Jay by email at or by using the contact form found throughout the website.